Now that I have shared my view on living a gentle life, let’s talk about “righteous” anger. I think all of us would agree that any harm done to a child is cause for righteous anger. This type of anger is clearly justified – this is what I am referring to as righteous anger. When someone has done intentional harm without justification, then being angry is an appropriate response. But, let’s not get carried away….someone pulling out in front of you on the road might have been intentionally wrong, but getting angry is simply foolish. Road rage is foolish. Do you get what I’m saying?
There are consequences to our behavior, including our anger. Will my anger create a better situation? When a child is harmed and the perpetrator is punished then, absolutely! The anger is justified and the outcome is righteous.
Lately we’ve seen on the news quite a bit of coverage of angry people. Justified? Probably. But their message can get lost by the inappropriate acts that some commit. If you want me to listen to you, then speak in a way that will command my respect. It’s simple and actually leads back to my previous blog of living a life of kindness. I respect intelligent people who speak to me in kindness. I will listen. My remote control comes in handy when you wear an offensive costume and scream at me. Again, it is simple: Please, be true to your belief system, but be careful how you try to spread your message.
It isn’t just politics, I’ve found this often within the religious communities. I will usually tune out someone when they attack a faith that isn’t identical to theirs. There is no need to condemn when sharing your truth. If the other faith is about goodness, leave it alone. That “unfollow” option on social media has come in very handy when someone is ranting their self-righteous beliefs. I was raised to believe a certain way, but over time, I have found that I don’t agree with some of what I was initially taught as a child, and there is no need for me to try to convince those who still believe in that old way that they are wrong.
I’ve written in my blog about transformation. My hope is that I stay focused on living my life with grace, love, kindness, tenderness, to be still, and to listen more. This way of life requires my daily transformation. There is much in this world that can mold us into cynical, angry humans. There is no joy in a life of cynicism. Think of the times you have been filled with joy, it is doubtful you were surrounded by negativity.
I work at keeping that which makes me happiest a daily part of my life. It can be as simple as listening to my favorite music, looking at the most recent photo of my grandchild, or sending an email to someone I care about. It is my choice to create a life of joy. It could also be my choice to create a negative life….but, I’ll pass.
I recognize that my years are now numbered, and that in itself is encouragement to live a daily authentic, joy-filled life. What more could I want than that? It is liberating to know who I am, who I love, and to live my life specifically for that love. I highly recommend it.
I hope your life is what you want it to be and that the choices you have made fill you with joy.
I’m an introvert, I have always been. I recall years ago when my children’s father was in college we were at a party and someone asked Bill, what’s wrong with your girlfriend? She’s like a wallflower. It wasn’t that I wasn’t having fun, I was simply observing, learning. I was always more content watching than being the center of attention.
If I care deeply for someone I’m going to participate frequently in their life, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t care about the other people in my world, I’m just not interested, or really comfortable, in socializing much.
I had to learn to be more relaxed while participating in this world which included the business world while working full-time. It was probably good for me; forced me out of this shell a little bit.
You might wonder if I wish I were different and I suppose there have been times in my life that I it would have been optimum for me to be more outgoing but mostly, no, I like it this way. I like that I am a thinker, a dreamer, an observer. I see and learn a lot by observing. I have an investigative mind so this serves me well. I’m very curious. My kids used to refer to my curiosity as nosy, but truly it was just more of a need to understand – how did you get from A to Z? I don’t simply want the answer; I want to understand how you got the answer.
There are many of us who are introverts and social media has allowed us to participate without having to actually participate. We can observe within the confines of our quiet spaces without having to be in the middle of it all. Good or bad? I think more good than bad. I can pull away whenever I need to without anyone really noticing – an introvert’s perfect world.
So, to all the other introverts in this world – celebrate who you are and the gifts that come from being exactly who you were designed to be!
For you, René, my sweet friend. ❤
Agony’s torn at my heart too long….
One’s Higher Self. I have a yogi co-worker who has been sharing her beliefs with me and is encouraging me to connect with my Higher Self.
In the Christian world, I suppose the Higher Self would refer to your soul – that which makes you, you. In the yogi world, the Higher Self is your spirit self which is the pure, clean, all-love self that guides you and is connected to Source (in the Christian world Source would be God). Similar to the Christian belief, both worldly selves have free-will so the higher self (soul) can only guide you as much as you are willing to listen and be guided. Free will can all too often lead to big mistakes so connecting to your Higher Self can hopefully help guide you into a positive direction – the path you are meant to be on.
Another thing my yogi friend has mentioned is there are no coincidences. I am especially curious about this notion.
I like this way of thinking and have begun to try to connect with my higher self. Am I convinced? Not entirely. It is a work in progress…but I’m going to keep trying.